Wednesday, August 8, 2018

The Snuggle Games

 

 A little after I started the Figuringitout101 blog, I wrote a post about how my son didn't want me anymore. You can find the post here , if you wanted to reread it. To summarize it, my son who used to be a momma's boy began needing me a little less and needed his daddy more. That has been true ever since I wrote that post, but some things have changed since then.


      This summer, some little shifts, so subtle, I didn't notice them at first had been made. It's been such a burden and just a pain in the butt to put the kids to bed. After screaming and shouting, counting to five 100 times, the kids finally settled down and went to bed. It wasn't long, however, that I heard my bedroom door creak open. I had just put on a New Girl rerun episode on the tv and my son asked me if he could lay down with me. My first instinct was to say no and to make him go back to bed again, but I noticed an innocence in those eyes and told him he could, but he had to have his eyes closed and had to appear like he was sleeping. It wasn't long before I heard him giggling at the episode.






   

    This was one of the first time in a long time moments that he has wanted to do any sort of snuggling or hanging out with me. Since then, he has told me little things like, "Mom, your pillow looks more comfortable than mine" or "Mom, your blanket looks comfy. Can I have it?" I usually respond with a no, but the questions like that kept coming and I realized that he was wanting to snuggle again, but didn't want to ask me. After all, what's the point of snuggling with mommy if she doesn't beg you to do it first? His mission at 8, is to make snuggling seem uncool, but I know now that deep down inside, my little vulnerable guy is still just as sweet. I have to just read into his actions to really know what he wants.


     When I thought that this was the time that he only wanted daddy, I'm finding that I'm still wanted, but have to be patient. I can't force it and have to wait for him to come to me, but that makes these little moments even more special. Now it's like a game, and well, games are fun!



10 comments:

  1. I had a similar blog post! I am not the favorite either. However heartbreaking it can be at the time, they come back in those moments and you remember how much you still matter

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    1. It is heartbreaking, but then daddy gets the snuggles that he's been missing for all the years that I had them. :)

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  2. I have 2 Daddy's girls and 1 mama's boy... I try to enjoy each moment because they are growing up. I have seen him need and want daddy and do man things but my girls come to mean to learn how to do women things too. I love each moment

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    1. We have two boys and one girl. My daughter has always been a daddy's girl, but she comes to me for girl things too. My youngest is still a momma's boy, so I shouldn't complain too much.

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  3. What a sweet boy! This brought a tear to my eye. I'm definitely nervous for the days when my toddlers won't want their mommy anymore.

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    1. Thank you! I like him alright! We're never really not wanted, just remember that. Mommy will always have a special place in their hearts.

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  4. Good to know it will come back. My boy still loves and wants me. Not looking forward to independence and daddy centered ness. Haha

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  5. Love this. They definitely go through phases Haha. My first born was mummy’s boy then Daddy’s boy so I can fully relate to this. Great post.

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