Friday, August 3, 2018

Back to School Clarification


     A couple of days ago, I posted a blog about how I was ready for my kids to go back to school. While I had hoped for it to be relatable, I got some feedback from a few who said things like, "I enjoy my kids company," or "Oh, wow. I'm already tired. I hope that my life isn't like this when my child is born." or something similar to that.

     I wanted to clarify some things. When it comes to parenting, there are going to be some weak days and not everyday is going to be exhausting or makes you so crazy that you're ready for your kids to go back to school. Trust me, when my kids do go back to school, I'm going to be bored and wondering what I can do to pass the time. I'm going to actually miss my kids.

     You know what, though? I miss my kids when I'm out watching a movie with other adults or when we are hosting a game night. Those little creatures are a part of me and I've seen them almost every day since the day that they were born. On the nights when they stay the night at grandma's or when my husband and I get away for a night, I miss them. They are ALWAYS put in conversation, somewhere. Most of my blog posts involve my kids.


     Being a mother can be exhausting and sometimes you can get to a point where you feel like a failure, but it doesn't mean that you are. The fact that you feel that way, says how much you care about them. On those nights, it's ok to give the kids an early bed time. I don't personally drink, but sometimes it's ok to have that glass of wine or eat that pint of ice cream. Just because you became a mommy, doesn't mean that you had to stop taking care of yourself or stop feeling frustrated when frustration is warranted.

     I wrote a post last week about a book I read by Jennifer Fulwiler called One Beautiful Dream. There is a section in that book where the grandparents are talking and they tell her something about how moms have it harder today. In their day, their moms kicked them out of the house and they didn't return until dinner. They also had big families and everyone there pitched in. They all had a support system.--- If you haven't read this book, yet, I highly suggest it.


     We have dad's for a reason. They are here to help lift the load. If you are in a single parent family, don't be afraid to ask for help. God might have put people in your life for a reason, so don't take them for granted. I'm off topic, again.

     Anyways, I might be ready for school to start, but when it does, it's going to be so refreshing for all of us, even for those who homeschool. Kids thrive under order and schedule because they know what's going to happen next. They may resist it at first, but it always seems to get better.

     So, I'm ready for school to start, but once it does, I'm going to miss those guys and it won't be long before we're all ready for the next school break. Motherhood is basically a time of conflicting emotions, which is why I believe that it was made for women- we can handle that sort of thing.


4 comments:

  1. I'm from the generation that during the summer, we left after breakfast and weren't seen again until supper. We knew all the neighborhood moms (and all the moms knew each other!) They all looked out after us, and we didn't get away with anything! SAH moms NEED a break! Don't you let anyone make you feel one ounce of guilt for needing a break from your children. All parents need a support system to help them raise our next generation.

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    1. It's so true! If we were to do that today, we'd have child protective services called on us for neglect. I roamed the neighborhood, too and we were ok. Unfortunately, the world is scarier, today with all of the scary headlines, but what if its because kids aren't surrounded by their friends. If a kid is outside on their own, they are an easier target.

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    2. All too true, unfortunately.

      There isn't as many SAH parents these days so there isn't the neighborhood community there once was.

      OT: I know it is difficult to live on just one income, however it is possible ... I did it for a long time. The family must make many sacrifices on materialistic items. I don't think people are as willing to do that as they once were.

      Regardless, you are right on the money when you say, God " put people in your life for a reason, so don't take them for granted." There's no maybe about it.

      When someone extends a helping hand, take them up on their offer! It is their Gift to you. You would have a hard time turning down a material gift, shouldn't turning down a gift in the form of help be just as difficult? Don't let pride get in the way, you may just be robbing someone of the pleasure of their gift giving. :)

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    3. Thank you so much for your input! I value it very much!

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