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Showing posts with label Beauty and the Beast. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Beauty and the Beast. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 16, 2018

Be Your Own Person and Not Someone Else


  Today, I found one of my daughter's toy princesses. This figuring is a small, fits in the palm of your hand Elsa from the Disney movie Frozen. This is one of her many dolls that have interchangeable dresses. You just push the bottom in like a clothes pin and it will open up the dress and the princess can slip right out.


       When I found her, she was wearing the dress that belongs to Belle from Beauty and the Beast. The first thing I thought was, "Girl, this isn't your color."

       Immediately, after that, I thought, "I shouldn't be so mean and judge" but then another lesson came to mind.

Not Everything is made For Everyone

      Look at Elsa: She's very pale skinned, her hair is platinum blonde, and if she were a real human, this color would wash her out. The dress is very pretty, but it wasn't made for her.

       This doesn't mean that she's ugly, but she has other things that she could wear, like blue or green, that would suit her better.

      I'm not saying that she shouldn't wear this dress. Maybe it's more comfortable than her other dresses or maybe she likes the color better. And this isn't really about looks, anyways.

      I know that sometimes, we want our kids to be just like us and do things like play sports or learn to play the piano. We shouldn't put it on them if it isn't something that they want to do, though. Our intentions may be good, like "I want them to have structure" or "I want them to do what I couldn't do", but really, you should see how your kid feels about it.

      Maybe you really liked to play football and you want your child to follow in your footsteps, but your child just wants to swim or dance. Don't shame them for not wanting to do what you want them to do. They aren't you! No matter how many similarities there are between you, they are still their own person.

Just because everyone is doing it, doesn't mean that you have to, too.

      How often do we let our kids wear things just because everyone else is wearing them? In a world where we have to be careful because anyone can look up things about you, we need to be careful with how we're dressing our kids. There really is a need for censorship.

     Yes, that mini skirt and low cut blouse looks cute, but it's not made for little girls. Even teenage girls shouldn't be wearing them because they should be more focused on learning in school and building healthy relationships and not trying to catch all of the guys attentions. Your kids can choose what they want to wear when they are legally an adult.

      Set some boundaries and follow through on them. I mean, Elsa shouldn't be wearing a strapless dress when her land is frozen. It's impractical, put on some sleeves! Yes, Belle is the most beautiful and best princess, but Elsa, you have your own style and qualities too. You don't need to be like Belle.


     I may have pushed this lesson a bit, I blame it on my ever thinking/wandering mind. I always got in trouble in English class, or rather any class where I had to have coherent thoughts written down in the way that someone else wanted me to write- which you know, that really stifled my creativity. Someday, I'll show them.

      You don't have to be like everyone else. You are your own person. Just do what makes you happy as long as it doesn't break the law. I mean, we can't all walk around naked just because clothes confine us, but you know, I wouldn't anyways because- cold. Brrrr!

      Don't suffocate your kids with things that you want them to do. Instead, allow them to do some things that they enjoy, but also, don't let it be a burden on you, either. I mean, does your child really need to be in art, soccer, dance, and learning to be the American Ninja Warrior all at once? No!

      Lastly, don't worry too much about how you are as a parent. We all do things differently. Some of us believe that a quick, in control spanking or time-out helps their kids with disciplining and structure while others believe that all things can be done well with incentives and love. Kids are all different and maybe they need more tough love than gentle love or maybe they need more words of affirmation than words of disappointment. There's a reason why we call it parenting style because things work differently for everyone.

Anyways, be your own person and not someone else.

Sunday, September 9, 2018

Guys.... I Want a Castle

     This isn't a typical family blog post, today, more like fancy thinking. Living in a castle has always been something I wanted to do as long as I can remember. Even in the movie Tangled, by Disney, Flynn Rider says, "Guys, I want a castle" and I totally relate. I have always loved reading the different renditions of King Arthur and his knights, and one of my favorite movies is Ever After which is a different take on the story of Cinderella. Castles, beautiful dresses; I just love it all.

      One of my great-aunt's is touring Italy, right now and she visited a castle. I'm super jealous!

I took this picture from her Facebook page..... My inner child is squealing with delight.

     I know that it is probably impractical to live in a castle. I mean, the amount of money that goes in to keeping it up is probably more than anyone who isn't rich can keep up with and it's just the five of us and our two dogs, but think of all the guests that we can accommodate. Slumber parties will be epic. Ok, so it might cost a lot to cool and heat the place, but maybe we'll each have our own fire place. Everyone can have their own wing. ("What's in the west wing?" Belle "It's FORBIDDEN!" Beast- Beauty and the Beast) I'd imagine that hide and seek would be much more fun and I, for one, would be super excited to find hidden rooms and such.

      I'm also pretty specific about the look of my castle. For some reason, I don't like the pointy round ones like this.

      Yes, it's beautiful and the country side is gorgeous, but I like the more square kind. I suppose they feel more historical to me and I think the rounded ones remind me more of cathedrals then castles. 

     Ok, so this last one has is a little rounded with points, but it's so pretty with the ivy growing up on it and it's more simple. 

      I guess, instead of living in a castle, I could settle for visiting one. I hear that Scotland, Ireland, and other countries across the big ocean have them... (I know they do). I think a friend told me that I could stay the night in one in Ireland. That could be REALLY fun!

     And if I can't manage to have a castle, I might be very happy to settle for nice little estate like the one that Mr. Bingly had in Pride and Prejudice

But I'll also settle for something like the Bennet's place too. The history and the setting and all the intricate details is all very picturesque and romantic, and I think that's what I really want.

      I think that Disney might have ruined me by giving me such high expectations. What do you think? Could you live in a castle?

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